How to reframe your thoughts to beat anxiety

To be honest, I can't say that I have conquered all of my anxiety. I still wake up sometimes and feel that pit in my stomach. The worst time is probably at night, when I have nothing to distract myself from my thoughts, and my mind wanders and creates every worst possible scenario. Most of these things never happen. That doesn't stop my mind from being afraid of them becoming reality.

I have always been an anxious person. I was very shy growing up. Now, I don't really consider myself shy, and I have really reduced my level of anxiety to, let's say, about half of what it was before. That is why I decided to write to you today, to help you. I know that you are suffering from anxiety if you are reading this, at least in the mildest forms. Here is what I've learned after years of therapy, reading self-help books and doing meditation regularly.

You are NOT your thoughts.

I'll say that again. You are NOT your thoughts. What I mean by that is we often let our thoughts control us, especially negative thoughts, and we start to identify with them on a deep level. For example, you can be suffering from the thought "I am not worthy of having friends" (which by the way, is SO not true), and then you start believing that lie. You start believing that what your mind is telling you is the truth, when it isn't.

Your mind can create pretty much anything out of thin air. It doesn't mean that any of these things are true. The best way to fight these thoughts is to not let them control you. Don't let your thoughts dictate anything about how you truly feel, and what you believe about yourself and the world. In the many years I've suffered from anxiety, I found that the best way to fight negative thoughts is to follow these two steps : 1. Observe your negative thoughts without judging them (that is, don't believe they are true or that they hold any meaning, they are just thoughts" 2. Challenge your negative thoughts with more positive and constructive thoughts. (For example : change "I am not worthy of love" to "I am just as worthy of love as anyone else")

Meditation is a great way to start having a relationship with your mind. People are so deeply immersed into the world that they never experience a split between "the observer self" (the true self) and "the monkey mind" (all the thoughts that run like crazy in your head). That is why you should start a practice of just observing whatever thought you have for at least 5 minutes a day. You will be surprised at what comes up.

As all your subconscious thoughts come to the surface, your "observer self" will be able to differentiate an anxious thought and a thought that is based in reality. That is why meditation is so powerful, you get to connect to your inner truth. After the recognition of the false thought, try to rephrase that sentence in a way that empowers you. In something that you can believe and something that brings you inner peace.

I am so happy to be here, on the other side, and to help people who are going through what I have gone through. I truly believe the meaning of life is to fill our own cup full of so much love that it overflows into a life of service. If you love my website and what I do, subscribe, follow, like, and share. I will keep doing this as long as I am needed to help others break through their personal difficulties and life challenges.

Want to learn more about how to access "the observer self"? I highly suggest that you read this book : "The Untethered Soul : The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A. Singer". Reading this book honestly changed my whole life and perspective about reality.

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